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Do
Men Really Know What They Want
Have
you had this experience ? You
find someone online and take the initiative
to begin a conversation. They state
on their profile what they like and
you try to become that only to
find he wanted the opposite ?
It
has happened more times that I
wanted to admit. I have even gone so
far as to diet in order to get a date.
But I realized that after loosing weight ,
he chose the Thick Kat that weighed
40 pounds larger than I did before the
diet. This leads me to the real question:
Do
Gay Men Really Know What They Want ?
Yeah
we claim to be so in touch with ourselves.
We can rattle off how much we make,
what type of shoes we have in our closet
and can give a lecture on our personality
traits. But when it comes to love, many
of us have unrealistic views.
Please
tell me how can someone who isn't in
shape, is missing 10 teeth and still
living with their mother at the ripe
of age of 38 demand that I have a six
pack, make 75,000 per year and have
pearly whites ? What the Fuck ! But
this type of thinking is so prevalent
in the gay community among men.
And
the truth is that most dudes that are
making those crazy lists of expectations
don't live up to them. How can you ask
for something that you are not. Do Gay
men Really Knwo What They Want ?
Don't
fall into my life long struggle of trying
to wear the latest clothes, join the
best clubs or any other thing that would
make you " a better catch"
. This leads to a lifetime of self-judgement
which wreaks havoc on your mind, body
and spirit. Let me set you free.
You
will always not be what someone wants
regardless to how much you have or how
your look.
I
have found that loving yourself is the
best and easiest way to deal with the
dating scene. Yes, you want to improve
on certain areas but you don't make
it a requirement to be loved. This is
the key to success in your social
life. When you are confident , it doesn't
matter what guys are saying they want.
You are complete as you are. There is
nothing to change to be loved. It becomes
a take it or leave it.
And
you know what ? That attitude will attract
more dates than catering unrealistic
expectations ever could.
Juan
Diego, Founder
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